Friday, April 9

Would you be offended

if you were hosting a party and someone brought their own food because they had special dietary needs? my sister is hosting a party tomorrow and told me what food she got to serve. it sounds nice, but few items are items i can/will eat. I have lost 60 lbs and i want to keep it that way. I asked her if it was okay for me to bring food for myself, or if she'd be offended. At first, she said it was okay, she wasn't upset, but as the conversation progressed, she became pissy that i wasn't going to eat her food. I don't expect her to buy or prepare anything special for me, i just want to bring a small cooler of food i can eat without a) getting sick or b) feeling guilty or c) have to do several hours of intense aerobics and running to work it off.

I packed a small salad (1 diced cuke, 2 diced carrots, 2 diced celery stalks, 1 cup lettuce mix) with 2T light dressing on the side, an orange, an apple, 1c strawberries, some high fiber low-fat bread, some talapia, 1 light laughing cow cheese wedge, 1 fat free cupcake, 24 special-K tomato basil crackers, 17 pc low fat pepperoni, and some ice tea (they only drink regular pepsi). we're going to be there for several hours and i don't want to be tempted to eat the bad stuff. The last family function i went to, the only thing i could eat was the stuffing which i brought.

What would your attitude be? Am I being unreasonable or rude by bringing my own food to someone else's home?

10 comments:

恆妍怡君慧迪 said...
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vq said...

I wouldn't have even asked--I'd have just taken the food, parked it somewhere discreet, and eaten it when I was ready!

emma said...

Your sister was being whiny. She should have been supportive. What if you had been a diabetic? Would she insist on you eating the chocolate cake with ice cream or other no no carbs?
Or, you could have eaten before you went to the party, then just eat the "good for you " foods your sister prepared.

emma said...

oh, PS . . that was me removing the comment . . it was Chinese spam

Spidey said...

i think it shouldn't be a big deal. she should respect your diet and you should be descreet like verb said.

sheila222 said...

I have no problem with someone bringing their own food to eat if they feel either that they cannot eat the food I make, or if they feel uncomfortable asking me to make something that they feel they CAN eat. I much prefer to know beforehand! After not eating meat for 40 years, I often pack myself a cheese sandwich and will leave it in the car and eat it only if no other food is available. The problem here is, imo, you gave your sister an opening to be weird about it. Like VQ said,, just do it. No biggie.

Catz said...

the ladies all have valid points. I read this last night but didn't want to say it in case I made anyone mad. but I think pretty much the same as they do. she should've considered how hard you've been working on watching what you eat.

when I cook for others I try to cook a variety. I know some diabetics so if I made desserts there would've been something there for them and/or someone watching their weight but wanting something sweet.

I'm picky about what I drink. I've been known to bring my own drink. many people I know drink mostly soda. I'm not big on soda so I bring unsweet iced tea and some lemon. no one's had issues yet. we just had a good time.

no big deal.

UrbanStarGazer said...

I wouldn't be offended at all. I'd rather you be there and bring your own food than not come because you can't or don't want to eat what I make.

The woman that my younger brother is dating is a health fanatic and she does some sort of shows where she has to really watch everything she eats before them so for Easter she brought her own food and no-one even noticed or cared.

Mrs. Tree said...

The point of hosting events is to invite people to your home and show them a good time and make them feel comfortable. If that means they bring food they like, what should it matter to the host. I'm guessing your sister has her own shame/food issues and seeing your progress makes her feel inadequate and defensive. (I'm not judging her; we all might have felt the same at some point or another.) Anyway, those are her issues to deal with. Bring your food and make your family get used to the idea that you are going to look out for yourself AND be part of family celebrations.

Mrs. Tree said...

Jilly, what happened with the party and the food?